HELICOPTER MOMS ARE SOOOO (EYEROLL) Before I had my son, I was a stepmom. If you're a step mom you understand the list of challenges that are tied to this title. You more than likely know the feelings of exclusion and loneliness all too well. I could strangle people who would say things like, “ There’s no way you can understand, you’re not a REAL mom.” I thought, “Are you kidding? I have a stepdaughter and care for her like my own. I remember taking her and her friend to see my girlfriend in another state (she was about 10)